The conversation about a thing is not the thing itself. No matter how smart the conversation is. A review of a movie isn't a movie. A recipe isn't a meal. A romance novel isn't a relationship. Beware the very human temptation to conflate words and ideas with the thing itself.
Go beyond words and into the depth of real meaning, to the place of pure soundless energy, to the experience itself, not the description of the experience. It might take some time to get used to this approach, but we're actually pretty well designed for it. The need for constant distraction is mostly habit anyway. Give yourself some time and see if it doesn't start getting easier.